I tried telling him I need the day to work, but he keeps disturbing me every five mins wanting something,” she said.The woman knew that she would end up raising the kids, not her husband, as he always needed her help. While she understands his selfless choice to take responsibility for the children, she thought it was unfair that he would rely on her to do the job for him.
The woman and her husband discussed the matter several times. She was sure she could not live the subsequent years raising children and paying for them, but her husband wanted to be there for his family. Financially, they could not raise three children comfortably too. Their expenses also increased as they had to buy the toddlers’ clothes and food.
The woman said: “CPS did get involved and asked us whether we want to keep the kids or not. I do not. I thought my husband would be on the same page, but he wants to keep the kids.” The woman and her husband discussed the matter several times. She was sure she could not live the subsequent years raising children and paying for them, but her husband wanted to be there for his family.

Although she understands where he is coming from, she knows that she cannot sacrifice her life for the children she didn’t want in the first place.The woman eventually asked for a divorce. Her husband cursed her for abandoning him in his time of need. However, she had already expressed her boundaries years ago and cannot commit to children.
After posting her situation on Reddit, many shared their thoughts and understood where the woman’s decision came from. They knew parenthood was hard but, at the same time, felt for the children. “I feel so bad for the kids,” one person said.
“This is really a tough situation all around. If this isn’t something you can commit to, it’s best to end it now.” Others brought up the couple’s wedding vows to each other and how it appeared she was breaking them.
However, the woman clarified that they do not believe in the usual “death do us part”. They vowed not to have children and to stay together until being apart was a better choice.