4. An Affinity For Game-Playing

Playing hard to get even in the slightest. Huge turn off, most quality guys will do what we call the ‘hard next’. Meaning we will move on if a girl is not clearly into us from the beginning. – Andy, 31

5. Insecurities

As a doctor, I can say that based on what I hear from men and women that the two most unattractive qualities that stop people from pursuing relationships further are insecurity and mistrust. While many have had things happen in their past that have made them feel this way, most people are not willing to wait for them to work through this, or to start a relationship built upon these issues. – Nikki, 46

6. One-Upping

If a woman is subtly (or overtly) competing with me or other women during a conversation, I don’t want to continue talking with her or make her a part of any future conversation. This kind of competitiveness comes out in things like name dropping, or when you are excitedly telling others about a new experience, she mentions how she’s already been there and done that. In general these competitive dames practice usurping group discussions. – Marilyn, 49

7. Pessimism

Somebody who is very negative about everything – you know, a pessimist, a “Debby Downer.” I understand that some negativity is warranted every now and then, but that should definitely be countered by some positivity as well. If not, you just kind of put a damper on everything. – Jared, 28

8. Narcissism

Somebody who talks about how busy they are all the time. Like, we’re all busy. Get over yourself. – Stephanie, 23

9. Elitism

A person who speaks about their job and wealth as a means of positioning yourself higher on the social ladder. Nobody cares about your annual salary, you’re bragging and I don’t like it. If you make so much money, how about you pay for my dinner? – Laura, 32