When confronted with a neighbor who adamantly refused to turn off his bright floodlights at night, I knew my husband and I had to devise a novel solution that would resolve the issue without escalating the confrontation. Instead of confronting our neighbors directly or generating a disturbance, we devised a clever plan that not only resolved the problem but also maintained harmony in our area.

I vividly recall the day the Thompsons moved in next door. My wife, Gia, and Susan hit it off immediately away, and we assumed we had discovered an older couple with whom we could get along. They appeared pleasant enough—Mark was frequently out for work, whereas Susan was more of a homebody, timid and afraid of practically everything.

Gia told me that Susan had a lengthy list of anxieties, including snakes, spiders, thunderstorms, and the dark. While we respected her fears, one of them quickly became a reality in our lives: her fear of the dark led to the installation of glaring floodlights over their garage.

Initially, it did not appear to be a huge concern. After all, we also had lights installed in our yard. But the Thompsons’ lights were on a whole other level—dazzling LEDs flashed directly into our bedroom at night, making it impossible to sleep. Gia’s first restless night elicited a disgruntled complaint: “They’re just blinding, Anthony.” “I am sure you could see them from space.”

Gia attempted to communicate with Susan, thinking that she would comprehend our predicament. But Susan was certain. “I need them,” she said. “They make me feel safe when Mark is away.”

We didn’t want to cause problems, so we attempted alternative options. We purchased blackout shutters and heavy drapes, and we even attempted to rearrange our bedroom furniture, but nothing helped. The lights continued to invade our nights, depriving us of sleep.

I eventually decided to talk to Susan myself. I tried to reason with her, even offering to establish a timer for the lights, but she refused to budge. Her terror trumped our need for slumber, therefore the lights remained on.